That might be a strange thing to say, but when it comes to diet and fitness, I think it’s wise to be selfish.
Understand your body. Understand your genes. You need to study and accept your health and your family’s health history, and then make the decisions you need to make.
I hear a lot of people – my patients, and others – say they had a drink (or five), or a slice of cake, or junk food, only because someone “forced them to”. Peer pressure. Jibes. Statements such as – “On a diet? What’s the point?, or “Oh, come on, have one! How will it hurt?”.
It does hurt. You.
Always remember that each person has a unique body, and unique needs. A friend might be able to get away with no exercise, an unhealthy diet, and drinks every night. (Though I really think bad choices eventually do catch up with you.) If, however, you cannot, don’t be afraid to say no. Be selfish.
What is food for one cannot be food for another. Do not compare your choices to anyone else’s. Everybody’s body is different. If, sadly, you are obese or have a propensity to be, you need to tackle that every day. Don’t allow yourself to be bullied. Don’t feel sorry for yourself. You will feel sorry if your kidneys or your eyes fail.
Respect your own body and its needs. That is all that matters.